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The Angle of Mursey

May 15, 2016 By Parker

Many of the men were so badly wounded they were flown directly from the battlefield in Vietnam to the hospital, and the nurse would clean battlefield dirt from their wounds. The men were Marines. Many of the men had lost hands and feet and legs and arms. The men would ask the nurse to scratch their missing limbs and she would do so, her fingers scrabbling in the hollow air, and they would lean back pleased and grateful.

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She was 22 years old. She had just graduated from the University of Portland with her nursing degree, and passed her nursing boards, and gone through Officers School, and earned her rank, and been assigned to the Naval Hospital. She is the beam ing child on the next page. Sometimes all 120 beds in the ward were filled and she would be the only nurse on night duty with a few Navy corpsmen as assistants.

Did they give you grief sometimes, you being the only woman, and so young?

No, she says, smiling but firm. I was their officer. They called me ma’am or they called me Miss Randles.

Did you ever break down and cry and despair at such carnage among such tall children?

There were days I sobbed, sure, she says, not smiling, but that was more fatigue than despair. The shifts were long. There were hard hours but they were proud men and I was proud of them and we were too busy to despair. I wanted to treat them like the strong, handsome Marines they were. You’re not just your arms and legs. You’re not just your injuries, your missing parts. People recover. People heal. People are people, not just parts. I was always fascinated by recovery. I loved working in stroke units and with amputees. I thought about being a surgeon but nursing seemed more fun, more intimate.

Infection was the great enemy, she continues. You get blown up, you’re in dirt, you’re easily infected —that’s the enemy. We watched like hawks for necrotic tissue. We fought temperatures all night long. The men were fitted with prosthetics and we would help them get used to their new parts. I heard a lot of swearing. Mostly I heard banter and byplay and jokes and humor and teasing. A lot of music. Not many visitors—none of the men were in their hometowns there. They got mail and cookies and blankets from home. There would be a celebration when a guy left for home.

They’d all go outside and see him off. Wheelchair guys would all roll outside too. It was pretty much one in and one out every day. A lot of guys came in during the Tet Offensive.

None of my men died, she says. Not one. We cared for maybe two thousand men in two years. I can still see most of their faces. I can still smell vinegar and bleach and infection. Infection has a sickly sweet smell. I got paid $300 a month. Sometimes my car ran out of gas because I was too tired to remember to fill the tank. We never talked politics. They did talk about where they had been, and where they’d been blown up, and about their buddies back in the war. Remember that these were volunteers, not draftees. They were proud of their service. They were proud that they didn’t let their buddies down. Part of them was still in the war: a bedpan fell off a bed with a crash, and they’d all dive for cover. They were heroes to me, she says. Heroes, do you understand? They were so brave, so tough, so cheerful, so enduring. They deserved respect, and I did my very best to deliver them respect.

She doesn’t say anything for a while and then she opens her scrapbook and shows me a letter. Summer, 1969. Handwritten, painstakingly, by the man at left, whose right hand and both legs are still in Vietnam.

“All Wounded Marines,” wrote the corporal, “dig Ward M, for here we have an Angle of Mursey. She has a Smile for you and me, and no wonder we are all Doing so well. Here is Truly Heaven’s Greatest Angle of Mursey, so Please Angle, never leave us, for we couldn’t live without you. You see, we built our whole World around your smile, Miss Randles, and We all love You.”

Right about here a normal magazine article would go on to explain how Ensign Susan Randles was going to rotate to a hospital ship, but instead she fell in love (with the officer who ran the brig!) and got married, and earned her doctorate, and returned to The Bluff to be a beloved professor and dean, but let’s not go there today. Let’s stop right here with Susan Randles Moscato holding her friend Tony’s letter in her hand, and her hand is shaking a little, and no one says anything for a while, and then she says, quietly, fiercely, heroes, do you understand?

Yes. Yes, we do.

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Unconditional Surrender

May 15, 2016 By Parker

The routines and habits of celebrated writers provide a subject of perpetual fascination. Readers hunger for the preferably wretched details of artistic creation. If idiosyncrasy is good (John Cheever typing in his underwear, Vladimir Nabokov standing up to shuffle a deck of index cards into Lolita, Truman Capote lying down with coffee and a cigarette), stamina, duress, and deprivation are better (Jean-Paul Marat scratching out revolution atop a box beside the bathtub in which he cooled his scorching psoriasis, the visually impaired James Joyce wearing a white jacket better to illuminate the page, Mavis Gallant pawning her typewriter and starving in Madrid while her agent hoarded her New Yorker checks).

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Perhaps what we admire most in writers is their ability to vanquish the noise of life—from the low hum of the quotidian to the high whine of crisis—by achieving a state of deep concentration that seals them, in the most extreme cases from physical or emotional pain, but more often simply from the insistent, contrary rhythms of responsibility. Consider the case of the prolific novelist Anthony Trollope, who arose at 5:30 every morning to write steadily for three hours before breakfasting and heading off to a day’s work as a postal surveyor.

A world that celebrates the hyperattention technology abets tends to regard the sort of deep attention still required for not just the writing life and but all those lives that demand the solving of difficult problems as rather antiquated and unfashionable. Despite the warnings of cognitive scientists about important limitations to our multitasking capacity, and about the overconfidence multitasking breeds, our commitment to it seems only to grow. Perhaps there is no better test of deep attention than the ability to write while the bombs are falling; and the most persuasive exemplar of such determined focus I know is Ulysses S. Grant.

Grant earned his nickname— “Unconditional Surrender” Grant— from his refusal to offer any concessions to the Confederates at Tennessee’s Fort Donelson, which he attacked in 1862. “No terms,” Grant informed his adversary and old acquaintance, Simon Bolivar Buckner, “except an unconditional and immediate surrender can be accepted. I propose to move immediately upon your works.” Unconditional surrendermight equally well describe Grant’s approach to writing, an enterprise to which he gave himself over with single-minded focus. Horace Porter, a member of the general’s staff, offers a portrait of his commander at work: His powers of concentration … were often shown by the circumstances under which he wrote. Nothing that went on around him, upon the field or in his quarters, could distract his attention or interrupt him. Sometimes, when his tent was filled with officers, talking and laughing at the top of their voices, he would turn to his table and write the most important communications. There would then be an immediate “Hush!” and abundant excuses offered by the company; but he always insisted upon the conversation going on, and after a while his officers came … to learn that noise was apparently The routines and habits of celebrated writers provide a subject of perpetual fascination. Readers hunger for the preferably wretched details of artistic creation. If idiosyncrasy is good (John Cheever typing in his underwear, Vladimir Nabokov standing up to shuffle a deck of index cards into Lolita, Truman Capote lying down with coffee and a cigarette), stamina, duress, and deprivation are better (Jean-Paul Marat scratching out revolution atop a box beside the bathtub in which he cooled his scorching psoriasis, the visually impaired James Joyce wearing a white jacket better to illuminate the page, Mavis Gallant pawning her typewriter and starving in Madrid while her agent hoarded her New Yorker checks). Perhaps what we admire most in writers is their ability to vanquish the noise of life—from the low hum of the quotidian to the high whine of crisis—by achieving a state of deep concentration that seals them, in the most extreme cases from physical or emotional pain, but more often simply from the insistent, contrary rhythms of responsibility. Consider the case of the prolific novelist Anthony Trollope, who arose at 5:30 every morning to write steadily for three hours before breakfasting and heading off to a day’s work as a postal surveyor. A world that celebrates the hyperattention technology abets tends to regard the sort of deep attention still required for not just the writing life and but all those lives that demand the solving of difficult problems as rather antiquated and unfashionable. Despite the warnings of cognitive scientists about important limitations to our multitasking capacity, and about the overconfidence multitasking breeds, our commitment to it seems only to grow. Perhaps there is no better test of deep attention than the ability to write while the bombs are falling; and the most persuasive exemplar of such determined focus I know is Ulysses S. Grant. Grant earned his nickname— “Unconditional Surrender” Grant— from his refusal to offer any concessions to the Confederates at Tennessee’s Fort Donelson, which he attacked in 1862. “No terms,” Grant informed his adversary and old acquaintance, Simon Bolivar Buckner, “except an unconditional and immediate surrender can be accepted. I propose to move immediately upon your works.” Unconditional surrendermight equally well describe Grant’s approach to writing, an enterprise to which he gave himself over with single-minded focus. Horace Porter, a member of the general’s staff, offers a portrait of his commander at work:

His powers of concentration … were often shown by the circumstances under which he wrote. Nothing that went on around him, upon the field or in his quarters, could distract his attention or interrupt him. Sometimes, when his tent was filled with officers, talking and laughing at the top of their voices, he would turn to his table and write the most important communications. There would then be an immediate “Hush!” and abundant excuses offered by the company; but he always insisted upon the conversation going on, and after a while his officers came … to learn that noise was apparently a stimulus rather than a check to his flow of ideas, and to realize that nothing sort of a general attack along the whole line could divert his thoughts from the subject upon which his mind was concentrated.

On the road Grant never liked to retrace his steps. When lost, he would carry right on rather than turning around. He seemed to have had the same superstition about his prose, which he crafted, as Porter documents, with relentless efficiency:

His work was performed swiftly and uninterruptedly, but without any marked display of nervous energy. His thoughts flowed as freely from his mind as the ink from his pen; he was never at a loss for an expression, and seldom interlined a word or made a material correction. He sat with his head bent low over the table, and when he had occasion to step to another table or desk to get a paper he wanted, he would glide rapidly across the room without straightening him-self, and return to his seat with his body still bent over at about the same angle at which he had been sitting when he left his chair.

Fastidious about language, Grant was indifferent to tools and surroundings alike. Nothing could distract him. In the field “he wrote with the first pen he happened to pick up,” sharp or blunt, “good or bad” His desk “was always in a delirious state of confusion” —a “literary geography,” Porter tells us, that baffled everyone except Grant, who could find a document he wanted “even in the dark.” The unshakeable concentration that Grant exhibited in the field also enabled him to complete his memoirs as he was dying of throat cancer two decades later, all the while convinced that each word he wrote hammered “another nail” in his coffin. The style of the memoirs, like that of the wartime writings, is distinguished by economy and precision.

Our current discourse about war veers from euphemism—kinetic operations, persistent low-intensity conflict, hearts and minds—to a deeply romanticized, unreflective rhetoric about heroes and values, to the equally and paradoxically romantic language of knowingness, cynicism, and disaffection inherited from pop-culture depictions of Vietnam (“Apocalypse Now speak,” one might call this last category). It is all or nothing; there is no room for ambiguity.

Caught between gauzy nostalgia for a “good war” and the current realities of a dubious one, today’s discussions are too often muddied by a reluctance to acknowledge that the deaths of good people in bankrupt causes do nothing to ameliorate those causes, or that armies serving just ends comprise soldiers with a wild variety of motives. Americans seem constitutionally incapable of accepting that even a “good war” is never fought for a single good cause alone nor ever won without brutal methods.

Grant fought in two wars, the Mexican War and the Civil War. The latter he believed a war of principle, the former “one of the most unjust ever waged by a stronger against a weaker nation.” But he never allowed the fact that brave men died in Mexico to distort his opinion of its politics, nor did he permit his belief in the cause of union to gild the waste of human life that secured it. More than a century has passed since Grant’s death, and we are at war again, or still. His writing reveals another way to talk about war.

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To his wife on his first battle:

There is no great sport in having bullets flying about one in evry direction but I find they have much less horror when among them than when in anticipation. menced with such vengence I am in hopes my Dear Julia that we will soon be able to end it.

On his second:

[T]he battle of Resaca de la Palma would have been won, just as it was, if I had not been there.

On his first mission in command during the Civil War:

I would have given anything then to have been back in Illinois, but I had not the moral courage to call a halt and consider what to do; I kept right on.

On the character of Zachary Taylor:

No soldier could face either danger or responsibility more calmly than he. These are qualities more rarely found than genius or physical courage.

On the surrender of Robert E. Lee:

That much talked of surrendering of Lee’s sword and my handing it back, this and much more that has been said about it is the purest romance.

Perhaps Grant’s philosophy of composition is best expressed in his description of the letter he sent to Lee accepting the latter’s surrender: “When I put my pen to the paper I did not know the first word that I should make use of in writing the terms. I only knew what was in my mind, and I wished to express it clearly, so that there could be no mistaking it.” Grant loves that final phrase. He repeats it several times in theMemoirs to describe both his own prose style and that of his hero Taylor.

A friend likes to tease me that there is no conversation into which I cannot smuggle a mention of Grant. When it happens—when my mind works itself around from an apparently unrelated subject to the Civil War general—she’ll say, “Ah, Grant!” as if he’s a mutual acquaintance she hasn’t heard news of in a while: “There he is. It was only a matter of time.” She’s right, of course: Grant is my idée fixe. (How many people can say that?) I’ll drop his name at what may seem the most unlikely moment. It just seems to me the right connection to make in so many circumstances, especially in recent years, when we have taken to talking about war in ways that differ profoundly from the clear-sighted, plain-speaking mode that was second nature to him.

Not infrequently, on a Sunday afternoon, as the church bells sound through Morningside Heights, I make my way uptown for a visit to the General Grant National Memorial, a.k.a. “Grant’s Tomb.” Dedicated in 1897, this massive granite pile was modeled after Mausolus’s at Hali carnassus. Groucho Marx long ago turned the tomb into a joke by asking who was buried there, and the memorial’s neglect has periodically provoked Grant’s relatives to threaten to remove his remains to Ohio. On a recent trip I overheard one tourist say to another: “I didn’t even know we had a president named Grant, did you?” When I visit, I think chiefly of Grant the writer rather than of the president or even the general. He would have found the place far too quiet: no bombs falling, nothing more than the occasional whispered conversation to stimulate his deep attention

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Missing

March 20, 2016 By Amy

by Patrick Madden

I had just settled in to work when the phone rang; it was my wife Karina, in a tizzy. The two youngest boys were missing. She’d been in the bathroom only a few minutes, and when she came out, the back door was ajar, Marcos and James nowhere to be found.

Understanding my role in situations such as this, and having lost and found children numerous times before, I spoke calmly, reassuring Karina that the boys were certainly nearby, maybe in the head-high weeds in the empty lot just across the backyard, maybe in the garage, maybe at the neighbors’, had she checked the playroom upstairs?

Yes, of course she had.

She wanted me home right away. I wanted to avoid driving halfway there only to get the relieved phone call. I wanted peace and systematic thinking, a plan, but I also wanted not to get worked up, to solve the problem by paying it no heed. The statistics on such disappearances were overwhelmingly in our favor. Most kids were found after a few minutes, innocently playing, unaware that they were causing their parents consternation. Marcos and James, just three and almost two, were overwhelmingly more likely to have wandered off than to have been taken, more likely to be safely ensconced than in any sort of danger. The fact that I was making up these statistics based on guesses and wishes did not dissuade me from believing them. I offered to call friends and neighbors to enlist their help, which I did, then I went back to work.

When Karina called again a few minutes later, I expected good news, but she was growing more distraught. I explained that the neighbors were already searching, which she knew, and suggested that she stay close to home, so the boys would find her there when they returned. She had called the police and she wanted me home now.

I was not worried, I told myself as I waited at a stoplight. They’d show up and we’d release our tension with a good laugh. I’d not even allow myself to get cross about all the undone work left waiting for me.

At each highway mile marker my thigh felt a phantom buzz from my cell phone, but Karina never called. When I hit the exit for home, I called her, half-expecting that in her jubilation she’d forgotten to notify me. But there was still no sign of them. The police were there. The neighborhood was filled with neighbors. The elementary school had been alerted. It had now been forty-five minutes.

I strained to guess where they might have gone, to get inside their heads or to hear the whisperings of the Spirit, to be guided to my sons. I drove as slowly as I dared, scanning the tall grass and trees along the roadside. Nothing.

…

There was a time, only a few years ago, when I thought four children was plenty. Karina and I had matched our parents’ output, had reached a reasonable return on our marital investment. Our car, a minivan, allowed us to travel together to Yellowstone or to the grocery store. Our house was comfortable, with the three girls sharing a large bedroom and their older brother across the hall in his own.

But the births of Marcos and James were the most irreversible of irreversible processes. Though they’ve existed for only a fraction of my life, they’ve so inserted themselves into my consciousness that they seem to have existed always; their lives are so entangled with my own that I feel as if without them I am not.

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After I’d been home for over an hour, comforting Karina, talking with police and friends and school aides, running and driving everywhere within a half-mile radius, checking and rechecking the drainage ditches the nearby farm the empty lot the house under construction the cars along the street the elementary school hallways the city ball fields the church parking lot the entrance to the mink farm the highway crossing the length of road as far as I could imagine they might have walked, praying frantically against the encroaching dread with each creeping minute with no news, I returned home broken. With my mind racing with a thousand scenarios, I trudged across the yard to the back deck, where Karina was weeping and two officers were explaining that they’d called police from nearby towns; firemen were parading their trucks noisily through the streets in hopes of calling the boys’ attention. They were serious now, somber, willing to discuss the possibilities we’d dared not voice. They would set up a base at our home, resystematize their search, go door to door and enter the homes they could. The Amber alert was active. It was now nearing two o’clock. The boys had been missing for two hours.

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I have traveled for conferences and for work, have visited family, have stayed home teaching while Karina took the kids to Uruguay for a month before I joined them there. I have spent weeks without seeing my children, days without speaking to them. I have learned, on the phone, of their injuries and emergency room visits, the discovery that the littlest has a peanut allergy. But in those lacunae I have always felt peace, have never suffered from the slightest suggestion that they were unsafe. Yet that day, across the protracted expanse of just two hours, I entered a place in my mind I had never visited, nor imagined was there. As I stepped up onto the deck, slumping my shoulders, breathing slowly, holding my gaze fixed on the middle distance between our house and the street behind, I was bereft. I had abandoned hope.

As I listened to the officers’ tentative plans, I no longer believed that Marcos and James were nearby just playing; I’d personally checked all the places they might have been hurt or worse, and so had a hundred other people. The only option left was that they had been taken. I asked, “Are there any traffic cameras close to here? At the light at the crossroads? At the school?”

My mind conjured a grainy black and white still image of a dark sedan. The camera angle was just low enough to allow a glimpse of a small boy (I thought) in the passenger seat under the hovering dark figure of an adult.

The police officers weren’t sure, but they would find out. It was unlikely. Meanwhile, they were doing everything —

My lethargic stare narrowed and locked on the slightest blur of movement across our backyard the next backyard the street the driveway across the street.

“Who is that kid!?” I yelled. My body sprang off the deck and began sprinting.

“Who is that kid!?” With each shout, I expelled all the air from my lungs; with each stride, the form came closer into focus. It was Marcos. When he saw me, his eyes went wide and he sat down on the driveway. Our friend Anita, who’d been walking along the sidewalk, got there with me and scooped him up while I ran past, bounded up the front stairs, and barged into the neighbors’ house. James was standing surprised in the front entryway, his mouth ringed by a chocolate goatee. I sobbed as I gathered him up and ran back outside, where his mother and the officers and a small group of neighbors were smiling and sighing, perhaps crying as well.

The ensuing hours involved lots of research and explaining. Marcos and James, unable to communicate any answers, were no help. The police entered the home, found no one there, determined that the boys had let themselves in and had plundered the bananas and Halloween candy. They’d been watching cartoons. They’d broken a vase. In all, their crimes were misdemeanors, easily remedied. We called our friends to call off the search, and the word spread quickly that everyone could go home and return to their usual level of vigilance. Several gathered instead in our yard, to offer what compassion they could. The threat was over and our minds could settle on the real results, not the excruciating possibilities that had haunted us for the past pair of hours. Karina’s friends, especially, hugged her and shared their own lost-child stories, all agreeing that none had suffered as long or as dreadfully. I called my neighbor Lonnie, whom I barely knew, to tell him that my sons had ransacked his home. He laughed a little, told me not to sweat it. I promised to replace the vase and the candy. He said, go ahead if you want, but get the vase from the dollar store. Later, he pieced together that one of his kids had left for school by the front door, leaving it unlocked, while everyone else went out the garage. Later, Karina and I mused on the improbability that the boys had gone so far so quickly to a house they’d never visited on just the day that the front door was unlocked and the cupboards were stocked with enough candy to keep them occupied for a long while. Later, another neighbor explained that he’d been checking all the basement back doors on the street, but hadn’t thought to do more than ring doorbells at the front.

Our friends in our front yard made what small talk you’d expect, verbal sighs of relief and offers to help in any way at all. Karina expressed her thanks. People nodded. They commented on how God had watched over the boys.

But I, with my young sons returned, could still not quite leave the dark place my thoughts had settled, could not heave off the feeling of despair that had overcome me. Then and for the next several days, I was on edge, jittery. I had no appetite. My head ached. I thought, as I do too often, of the parents whose children weren’t protected, who really were lost forever. Even recently, even nearby: a toddler stolen and raped and killed by her neighbor; an adolescent refugee persuaded and raped and killed by her neighbor; a teenager who didn’t come home from school one afternoon, whose mother reported her missing to unbelieving police who refused to investigate, citing statistics that most young adults that age were not abductees but runaways. But she had been abducted, by a jealous rival and the boy they both liked, then beaten with a baseball bat and left dead in the desert. Not thirty miles away, a few years ago, fourteen-year-old Elizabeth Smart was taken from her home in the middle of the night, then held captive for nine months by a mad preacher rapist until an America’s Most Wanted episode led to a lead and she was recovered. Thus she was one of the “lucky few” who ever get home again. After the first 48 hours, the statistics say, the probability of finding a kidnapped child reduces to near zero.

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The next day, after classes, I showed up a few minutes late to a faculty seminar. David Allred was explaining the principles of quantum entanglement, the double-slit experiment, and the indeterminacy of photons. I listened intently, fascinated, to his description of single quanta beamed through one or another slit and the resultant disappearance/omnipresence of the photon from/on both paths until it strikes a target in an interference pattern, having acted as a wave, interfering with itself. Until the energy resolves at the absorptive screen, it cannot be said to exist in either space definitively, or it “samples reality” along both paths, and not simply because our senses and instruments are too crude to find it. To put it another way, a particle exists in a range of possible locations until it is observed, and the observation fixes it in a particular place. Stranger yet, a photon or an electron can be split in two, with one part carried far away, and any observation or action on one half results in an immediate and predictable effect on the other. In this way, either information travels faster than the speed of light or the very notion of location in space loses meaning. The nature of the quantum universe is this very simultaneity and nonentity, untraceable and unknowable, affected by our observations and fundamentally beyond our ken, yes, but also fundamentally unknowable in moments of irresolution or inattention.

With all we have learned, we have finally arrived at Sophocles: we confront our unbreachable ignorance.

This, I sensed vaguely, was a metaphor, a gift, an unsought connection sent to nudge me: Everywhere and nowhere/indeterminacy/ separation/reunion. Before my sons had appeared in one particular place I had felt viscerally that they were everywhere and nowhere. In a way, the time of their disappearance and the fact that I could not observe them produced in my mind a superposition of possible locations, until by observing them, I fixed them in only one place, one of the only acceptable places they might have been. More and more I am coming to believe, and to be comfortable with, the notion that everything is probabilities, only probabilities. But this did not occur to me, nor did it comfort me, when I could not locate my sons.

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A couple of weeks later, I was shuffling down Concourse C in the Salt Lake City airport when I saw the stately blonde figure of Elizabeth Smart, now grown, recently returned from a mission to France. She was walking toward me, sharply dressed in pressed gray skirt and red blouse under a wool overcoat. Nobody bothered her, though a few heads, like mine, quickly turned in her direction as she glided past.

I was leaving my family for a few days. She was coming home.

Patrick Madden is a professor of literature at Brigham Young University, and the author of the essay collection Quotidiana. This essay is drawn from his collection, Sublime Physick, from the University of Nebraska Press.

Filed Under: Essays, Spring 2016 Tagged With: children, fathers, mothers

The University was the Best Decision I Ever Made

March 20, 2016 By Amy

by Kunal Nayyar ’03 as told to Laurie Kelley

I got my start in theater at the University of Portland — that’s where Mindy Logan taught me to act, and I still use all of her acting methods to this day. Those were such formative years for me. I hadn’t done a play in eight years, being so busy on Big Bang. To do a play right you really have to have time to rehearse. I was honored that Jesse asked me to be in his play with him, and I jumped at the chance, feeling that the play was right, I had the proper time to prepare, and I could be on stage with Jesse. It was wonderful.

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My new book is called Yes, My Accent is Real. It’s little snippets of my life. It’s about my journey from New Delhi to Los Angeles. It’s not a memoir; I’m too young to write a memoir. A lot of people know Raj Koothrappali from Big Bang Theory, but people don’t know that I’m actually from India. People call me an Indian-American actor or British-Indian actor, but I grew up in New Delhi. I wanted to tell my story so that it would inspire young people to realize that dreams can come true if you take a chance.

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From the time I was 18 I really wanted to be in a college that was close to my brother, who was at Reed. I had looked at lots of colleges and the University of Portland really caught my eye. I got a good scholarship, and that was that for the decision. I never even visited or saw the campus. I just took a chance, and it ended up being the best decision I ever made. I lived in Corrado Hall, which had just opened. I remember so many things so vividly… I didn’t know what I was doing. I had a great funny roommate. I was always falling in love with girls who were never falling in love with me. I could never figure out what time to show up to parties. I didn’t understand the cadence of sarcasm. I would just laugh at everything even if I didn’t understand the jokes. Because some of the jokes are cultural, you know. But I would just laugh because I wanted to be included. People probably thought I was an idiot who just laughed at everything. I worked in housekeeping my first summer, cleaning a lot of offices, and then I became a computer lab manager, without actually knowing anything about computers. Or managing.

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I majored in business, and never did actually get a minor in theater — too lazy. I’d have had to take set design and costumes and such but all I wanted to do was act. So every semester I just took my entire business classload and then I did as much acting as I could. My parents advised me to get a business degree, and I agreed with them — we wanted to have something I could fall back on in case my acting dream didn’t work out. I’m blessed to have parents who supported me in whatever I wanted to do. What they really cared about was the kind of human being I turn out to be. They’re happy that I’m financially comfortable and that I’ve worked very hard to achieve things, but those things don’t matter to them. I think they’re just happy that I’ve made a good life for myself. And that I have a good family and I work hard. I’m a decent human being, I think, and that is what they are most proud of.

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I have been married for four years now. My priorities shifted radically. For the first time in my life I feel more responsible for someone else than just me. Plus it’s nice to have a partner in crime. My wife Neha is Indian also, and we get homesick, but we are very busy — Neha is a fashion designer, launching her own label, and I’m busy with the show. We long to go home to India, but when we go home we have to see a thousand people in ten days. We wish we could marry our universes and have our families in Los Angeles, but… Where do we live in the future? Do we raise our kids in India? Do we raise them here? How is that going to play out? But, you know, we’ll be fine. We just have to trust in the universe and it will all work out.

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Neha and I did establish a theater scholarship at the University, yes. We wanted to give back. I know how much help the theater department needed. And I wanted to honor Mindy Logan, a truly wonderful acting coach. I didn’t know what I was doing when I started. I needed direction, and she gave me confidence. She taught me how much hard work it takes to really learn how to act, how much hard work and sacrifice it takes to be good at your craft. She laid the foundation of everything that I’ve achieved in my craft. Everything. When I was in Jesse’s play I consciously went back to her training. Whether you’re a singer or a dancer or painter or athlete or whatever you do, your foundational training is what you build on. You must have strong foundations to be able to build. Mindy was amazing. I remember how much I needed help when I was in college — maybe Neha and I can help someone else in the years to come…

Filed Under: Essays, Profile, Spring 2016 Tagged With: Kunal Nayyar

Francis & Francis

March 20, 2016 By Amy

by Timothy Egan

The most popular figure on the planet — the only priest who’s ever been on the cover of Rolling Stone, National Geographic, The Advocate, and Time, among many other periodicals — is a 78-year-old man with only a single functioning lung. His birth name is Jorge Bergoglio; his chosen name is Pope Francis, a name he chose to honor his spiritual mentor: that half-starved ascetic, that pauper who didn’t own money, property, or even shoes — Francis of Assisi, one of Italy’s two patron saints.

Most of the world’s 1.2 billion Roman Catholics know something of Saint Francis, but he is revered by many others as well. You can go to secular Berkeley, or equally secular France, and find the stone bird bath of Francis. He’s the nature saint. The patron saint of the environment.

But he was much, much more. Choosing his name — surprisingly, the first pope named for this revered figure — says much about the lasting power and impact of the saint from Assisi. And just how did this scrawny figure, dressed in a filthy tunic, with sores and boils all over his skin, living in a hovel, become so powerful?

A few biographical notes: He was born in 1181, or 82. He was a nobleman’s son. A bit of hellraiser. A party animal. His merchant family had money. The path was set for Francis to take over the business. His life, an easy life, was set for him. Francis committed “every kind of debauchery,” an early biographer said.

Remember, this was almost 400 years before the Renaissance. The early era of the Holy Roman Empire — which was neither holy, nor Roman. Italy’s hilltop towns were always at war with each other. And Francis went to war, against the neighboring town of Perugia. At the age of 21, he was a high-spirited warrior. Ready for adventure! Pillage! Bloodshedding! The rah-rah didn’t last long. Perugia defeated Assisi. Francis was captured, thrown in a dungeon with rats and a cold floor. There he spent a year before his father came up with ransom money to spring him.

But something had happened to him in that dank, dark place. After his release, he didn’t return home. He holed up in an abandoned church and prayed. When he emerged, he was a different man. He refused his father’s pleadings. He said he wasn’t interested in wealth, or a career in the merchant business. He was interested in the lost souls, the untouchable lepers in the valleys, the poor, the passed over.

This greatly alarmed his father. At the age of 25, Francis was hauled into court by his dad, who claimed that he refused to accept his family responsibility. There, Francis is said to have torn off his nobleman’s clothes, and renounced family and wealth. He stood, nearly naked. You can see this stunning narrative in the Basilica at Assisi, the Giotto frescoes.

Thereafter, Francis devoted his life to the marginalized and the forgotten. He said the church had grown too wealthy, too complacent, too removed from Christ. The poor lived shunned lives in the malarial shadows below the sun-washed hill towns, while bishops and other clerics resided in opulent splendor.

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Francis was a radical. A mystic. But he was a radical by example. As his mythic status expanded, he attracted many followers. He asked only that they sell all goods and give them to the poor. They dressed in simple tunics, usually shoeless like him. He felt, in order to get closer to God, you had to rid yourself of material distraction.

He was, in one view, the original hippie (very Oregonian), with his rejection of conventional life, his view that all living things have meaning and are connected. They called him, Il Poverello, the Little Poor Man. Fire was a brother. So was the moon. So were the stars. So, in the end, was death. Famously — though perhaps apocryphally — he charmed a wolf that was menacing the town. He preached to birds. By one definition, he was crazy. By another, he was brilliant.

He was not a priest, or even, by today’s measure, an evangelical. He was a life force, similar to Ghandi. But he was not a humorless scourge. Not a scold. Certainly not a statue. He was playful. Fun. Gregarious. He liked a joke. He would dance while preaching. Sing. Strip to his undergarments.

He felt he and brothers were inferior to all, superior to none. Humility — again, by example — gave him an aura, his power.

As his fame spread throughout Europe, he could have been like Martin Luther, and led a breakaway religion. Instead, he never directly challenged church authorities — except, of course by example.

One of the most daring things he did was go to North Africa, at great danger to himself, to meet with leading Muslims, this at a time when one of the crusades against Muslims and other infidels was going on. He walked much of the way, and it cost him.

Returning from Africa, in his late 30s, Francis got very sick. He had contracted malaria while in Egypt. Also had trachoma, a horrible eye infection. He seemed to wither away before people’s eyes, and yet, his power grew. Two years before he died, he experienced the stigmata — the wounds of Christ.

As his condition worsened, he retreated to even more austere conditions. He lived in a dirt-floored hovel, like his prison dungeon. Shivering with malaria. Vomiting. To him, it was liberating.

He died in 1226, at the age of 45.

And that should have been that. Remember: Francis had no army. His followers were poor and powerless. He had invented nothing. He had not written any great manifesto. But 800 years later, Francis is still immensely popular, perhaps more so than ever. He appeals to liberals and conservatives, believers and nonbelievers, all over the world.

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Cut to 2013, and a conclave of cardinals, trying to pick a pope. From the Sistine Chapel, white smoke appears. Birds alight — a sign. An Italian immigrant from Argentina — Jorge Mario Bergoglio – who rode on the back of the bus through slums, washed feet of prisoners and AIDS victims, is named pope. He is the first Jesuit pope. The first non-European pope in 1,000 years. And the only pope who once worked as a bouncer at a club.

He takes the name of the pauper from Assisi. This new Francis, striding through St. Peter’s Square, bypasses the limousine waiting for him and climbs aboard a bus, with other clerics. He pays his own hotel bill before checking out. He decides not to live in the Apostalic Place, but reside instead in a two-bedroom guest house. He will get around in a Ford Focus, not the Papal Mercedes.

His first words are Fratelli and Sorelle, buona sera! “Brothers and sisters, good evening!” Instantly, people feel a whoosh of fresh air in Saint Peter’s Square. Then, to cardinals who selected him, he says, “May God forgive you for what you’ve done.” Humor! Another fresh air breeze. As before, he washes feet of the poor and outcast, washes the feet of women and Muslims. He dials complete strangers up by phone and offers them encouraging words, or just says hello. One man hangs up on him — three times; he can’t believe the pope is calling him. He eats in the Vatican cafeteria, wears a plastic watch.

All symbolic, yes. But like that other Francis, radical by example, following the admonition of Francis of Assisi: “Preach the Gospel, and if necessary use words.”

And also, like the earlier Francis, the pope is playful, exuding an unusual amount of joy. He likes books, soccer, tango music, and gnocchi. He appears not to take himself seriously. He knows how to seize a moment. He goes to Naples, the heart of Mafia, and in words that could only have come from a former boxer says, “Corrupt society stinks.”

The most astonishing thing happens on return flight from South America. He’s asked about gays in the church, long a troubled spot for Catholic hierarchy. The Church had called homosexuality “an objective disorder.” Francis looks at the reporters, shrugs and says, “Who am I to judge?” No more famous words have ever been uttered by a Pope.

But there it is — the simplicity, the humility, the lightness of being. His power comes from exuding powerlessness. He changes hearts by example. The church, rather suddenly, seems to be no longer about what it’s against, but what it’s for.

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Like Francis the nature saint, this Francis emphasis our duty to creation. He issues an encyclical on the environment. In a speech before a joint session of Congress — the only pope ever granted such an audience — Francis challenges climate change skeptics. Think about that: the Church that put Galileo under house arrest for promoting sound science is now challenging the science deniers in power.

Last year, he was asked about his secret to happiness. He said, Slow down. Take time off. Live and let live. Don’t proselytize. Work for peace. Work at a job that offers basic human dignity. Don’t hold on to negative feelings. Move calmly through life. Enjoy books, art, playfulness.

Regarding money, he said, “I ask you to ensure that humanity is served by wealth, and not ruled by it.”

Has he changed church doctrine? Not really. Not substantively. But by his choice of words, his emphasis, he has moved mountains. He embraced unwed mothers. He embraced divorced Catholics, welcoming them back into the church fold, many of whom said they felt unwanted. He said those who’ve had abortions can be forgiven, a similar welcoming.

In the curia in Rome, the old line clerics scowl. One is quoted as saying, “He’ll be gone soon, but we’ll still be here.” That’s what they said about Francis of Assisi.

So, not yet three years into his papacy, has he changed hearts?

I consider myself similar to a lot of American Catholics — culturally bound to the church, but not to follow its dogma, particularly sexual dictates, on things like birth control. Europe has never had fewer practicing Christians. Their great cathedrals are empty — except for tourists. The United States, according to a Pew Center survey, is trending the same way, led by millennials, who are wary of pontifical certainty. But many people are giving the church a second look, or a first. So we have this paradox: as much of the world has become less identified with organized religion, the leader of the most organized of religions is the most popular man in the world.

After observing Francis in the first year of his papacy, I wrote a column for The New York Times called “Lapsed but Listening.” Not long ago, I ran into Father Steve Sundborg, my Jesuit friend from high school, now president of Seattle University.

He said: Which is it now?

And I said: Less lapsed, more listening.

Tim Egan is a columnist for The New York Times and the author of many remarkable books, among them the Northwest classic The Good Rain and the National Book Award-winning The Worst Hard Time, about the Dust Bowl. This essay is drawn from his visit to campus in Fall 2015, when he delivered the annual Father John Zahm, C.S.C., Lecture, honoring the University’s co-founder. 

Filed Under: Essays, Spring 2016 Tagged With: Catholicism, Pope Francis, religion, St. Francis, Timonth Egan

Fanatics Do Not Speak for Islam

March 20, 2016 By Amy

by Michael Berdine ‘ 68

As-salaam-u alaykum, peace be to you, we say in Islam — much as in the Catholic Mass we say the peace of the Lord be with you, and the responses are similar also: and with your spirit in the Catholic Mass, and wa alaykum as-salaam, and to you be peace, in Islamic culture.

I start with the word peace because I wish to say bluntly and clearly and loudly that Islam is not the twisted creed of the malefactors who perpetrated heinous crimes on September 11, the thugs who have distorted the true meaning and teachings of Islam ever since. The root of the word Islam is silm and salam, which mean peace, and Islam is about living in peace with the Creator, with yourself, with other people, and with all the creation that we have been granted by the One. “If anyone kills a person — unless retribution for murder or spreading corruption across the land — it is as if he kills all mankind, while if any saves a life it is as if he saves the lives of all mankind,” says the Al Ma’idah.

Nowhere in the Qur’an (which Muslims believe to be the exact word of God revealed to the Prophet Muhammad), or in the hadith (the teachings of the Prophet himself), do we read that the ends justify the means. Nowhere. Moreover, if we mistake our motivation and values, attributing false righteousness to ourselves, we will have lost our cause and, perhaps, our souls. So to those who claim to speak for Islam, who claim that terrorism and the murder of innocents is a right path, I say: you do not speak for the faith, and you should beware the loss of your holy soul.

In the Hadith al-Qudsi: “The first of people against whom judgment will be pronounced on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who died a martyr… He will say [to the Almighty]: ‘I fought for you until I died a martyr.’ [The Almighty] will say: ‘you have lied: you only fought that it might be said: ‘He is courageous. And so it has been said.’ Then he will be dragged on his face to the Hellfire.”

The cold fact of the matter when we talk about “Islamic” terrorism is that the murderers, for that is what they are, are not true Muslims. They are mere actors. They commit crimes for effect, to make an impression. They seek to gain their objectives through the manipulation of an audience. But these actors use real bombs, assassinations, murders, rapes, and mayhem to manipulate others to their will. Their agenda is political change, and no matter how assiduously they insist that their motives are religious, they are not the motives of Islam. Do not grant them that which is not theirs to claim.

Even their use of the word jihad is false. There is no such thing as a holy war in Islam. Only God is holy in Islam. The word jihad has a root verb — jahada — which in Arabic means exerting maximum effort or striving. The theological connotation is striving for betterment. Its major form — the “Greater Jihad,” jihad alkhabir — is the struggle within oneself for self-improvement, elevation, purification and getting closer to God. In short, it is a spiritual struggle to do good and avoid evil so one will attain heaven in the afterlife. Another form of jihad is using economic power to uplift the condition of the downtrodden and to finance the struggle for justice and liberation. The last, but not least form of the word, known as the “Lesser Jihad,” or jihad al-Saghrir, is the physical form, where people actually fight against oppression. The principles of that form are stipulated clearly in the Qur’an and teachings of the Prophet Muhammad: Fighting is only to defend against those oppressors who attack Muslims to force them to convert away from their religion or to drive them out of their homes. Fighting is limited to combatants. The Prophet commanded that the lives of civilians are to be protected. The word jihad is an Islamic-Arabic term that has been incorrectly translated and largely misunderstood. There is no equivalent to the term “holy war” in Islamic terminology. There is no mention of “holy war” in either the Qur’an or Hadiths (teachings of the Prophet Muhammad), which are the primary sources of Islamic teachings.

Every aspect of each Qur’anic mandate is aimed at nurturing an environment that will allow peace to emerge and prevail. Recognizing that humanity is flawed and will err, Islam provides a system to eradicate injustice and allow peace to flourish. In the spirit of its universal message of peace and respect for diversity, Islam’s goal is not to impose itself by force or declare war against non-Muslims. For a believing Muslim, specifically one who practices his/her religion according to the Qur’an and the Sunnah, the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad, peace and justice are always superior to war for those who are conscious of God.

As-salaam-u alaykum, peace be to you.

Michael Berdine ’68 was the first director of the Cambridge Muslim College in England, where he is now a research fellow.

Filed Under: Essays, Spring 2016, Winter 2009 Tagged With: Islam, religion

Under Water

April 15, 2015 By Parker

I was an impatient child who disliked obstructions: traffic jams, clogged bathtub drains, catsup bottles you had to bang. I liked to drop twigs into the stream that ran through our backyard and watch them float downstream, coaxed around rocks and branches by the distant pull of the ocean. If they hit a snag, I freed them.

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When I was eighteen, rushing through life as fast as I could, I was a student on a month-long wilderness program in western Wyoming. On the third day of the course we went canoeing on the Green River, a tributary of the Colorado that begins in the glaciers of the Wind River range that flows south across the sagebrush plains. Swollen by warm-weather runoff from an unusually deep snowpack, the Green was higher and swifter that month—June of 1972— than it had been in forty years. A river at flood stage can have strange currents. There is not enough room in the channel for the water to move downstream in an orderly fashion, so it collides with itself and forms whirlpools and boils and souse-holes. Our instructors decided to stick to their itinerary nevertheless, but they put in at a relatively easy section of the Green, one that the flood had merely upgraded, in the international system of whitewater classification, from Class I to Class II. There are six levels of difficulty, and Class II was not an unreasonable challenge for novice paddlers.

The Green River did not seem dangerous to me. It seemed magnificently unobstructed. Impediments to progress—the rocks and stranded trees that under normal conditions would protrude above the surface— were mostly submerged. The river carried our aluminum canoe high and lightly, like a child on a pair of broad shoulders. We could rest our paddles on the gunwales and let the water do our work. The sun was bright and hot. Every few minutes I dipped my bandanna in the river, draped it over my head, and let an ounce or two of melted glacier run down my neck.

I was in the bow of the third canoe. We rounded a bend and saw, fifty feet ahead, a standing wave in the wake of a large black boulder. The students in the lead canoe were attempting to avoid the boulder by back-ferrying, slipping crabwise across the current by angling their boat diagonally and stroking backward. Done right, back-ferrying allows paddlers to hover midstream and carefully plan their course instead of surrendering to the water’s impetuous pace. But if they lean upstream— a natural inclination, as few people choose to lean toward the difficulties that lie ahead—the current can overflow the lowered gunwale and flip the boat. And that is what happened to the lead canoe.

I wasn’t worried when I saw it go over. Knowing that we might capsize in the fast water, our instructors had arranged to have our gear trucked to our next campsite. The packs were safe. The water was little more than waist-deep, and the paddlers were both wearing life jackets. They would be fine. One was already scrambling onto the right-hand bank.

But where was the second paddler? Gary, a local boy from Rawlins a year or two younger than I, seemed to be hung up on something. He was standing at a strange angle in the middle of the river, just downstream from the boulder. Gary was the only student on the course who had not brought sneakers, and one of his mountaineering boots had become wedged between two rocks. The instructors would come around the bend in a moment and pluck him out, like a twig from a snag.

But they didn’t come. The second canoe pulled over to the bank and ours followed. Thirty seconds passed, maybe a minute. Then we saw the standing wave bend Gary’s body for- ward at the waist, push his face underwater, stretch his arms in front of him, and slip his orange life jacket off his shoulders. The life jacket lingered for a moment at his wrists before it floated downstream, its long white straps twisting in the current. His shirtless torso was pale and undulating, and it changed shape as hills and valleys of water flowed over him, altering the curve of the liquid lens through which we watched him. I thought: He looks like the flayed skin of St. Bartholomew in the Sistine Chapel. As soon as I had the thought, I knew that it was dishonorable. To think about anything outside the moment, outside Gary, was a crime of inattention. I swallowed a small, sour piece of self-knowledge: I was the sort of person who, instead of weeping or shouting or praying during a crisis, thought about something from a textbook (H. W. Janson’s History of Art, page 360).

Once the flayed man had come, I could not stop the stream of images: Gary looked like a piece of seaweed. Gary looked like a waving handkerchief, Gary looked like a hula dancer. Each simile was a way to avoid thinking about what Gary was, a drowning boy. To remember these things is dishonorable, too, for I have long since forgotten Gary’s last name and the color of his hair and the sound of his voice.

I do not remember a single word that anyone said. Somehow we got into one of the canoes, all five of us and tried to ferry the twenty feet or so to the middle of the river. The current was so strong, and we were so incompetent, that we never even got close. Then we tried it on foot, linking arms to form a chain. The water was so cold that it stung. And it was noisy, not the roar and crash of whitewater but a groan, a terrible bass grumble, from the stones that were rolling and leaping down the riverbed. When we got close to Gary, we couldn’t see him. All we could see was the reflection of the sky. A couple of times, groping blindly, one of us touched him, but he was slippery as soap. Then our knees buckled, and our elbows unlocked, and we rolled downstream, like the stones. The river’s rocky load, moving invisibly beneath its smooth surface, pounded and scraped us. Eventually the current heaved us, blue-lipped and panting, onto the bank. In that other world above the water, the only sounds were the buzzing of bees and flies. Our wet sneakers kicked up red dust. The air smelled of sage and rabbitbrush and sunbaked earth.

We tried again and again, back and forth between the worlds. Wet, dry, cold, hot, turbulent, still. At first I assumed that we would save him. He would lie on the bank and the sun would warm him while we administered mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. If we couldn’t get him out, we would hold him upright in the river; maybe he could still breathe. But the Green River was flowing at nearly three thousand cubic feet— about ninety tons—per second. At that rate, water can wrap a canoe around a boulder like tinfoil. Water can uproot a tree. Water can squeeze the air out of a boy’s lungs, undo knots, drag off a life jacket, lever a boot so tightly into the riverbed that even if we had had ropes—the ropes that were in the packs that were in the trucks— we never could have budged him.

We kept going in, not because we had any hope of saving Gary after the first ten minutes but because we needed to save face. It would have been humiliating if the instructors had come around the bend and found us sitting in the sagebrush, a docile row of five with no hypothermia and no skinned knees. Eventually, they did come. The boats had been delayed because one of them had nearly capsized, and the instructors had made the students stop and practice backferrying until they learned not to lean upstream. Even though Gary had already drowned, the instructors did all the same things we had done, more competently but no more effectively, because they, too, would have been humiliated if they hadn’t skinned their knees. Men in wetsuits, belayed with ropes, pried the body out the next morning.

Twenty-seven years have passed. My life seems too fast now, so obstructions bother me less than they once did. I am no longer in a hurry to see what is around the next bend. I find myself wanting to back-ferry, to hover midstream, suspended. If I could do that, I might avoid many things: harsh words, foolish decisions, moments of inattention, regrets that wash over me, like water.

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Francis

April 15, 2015 By Parker

It’s pouring rain. He wakes up very early, as usual. Today is March 12; it’s four o’clock in the morning and still dark outside. Kneeling with his eyes closed, concentrating, he prays silently. He asks Saint Joseph and Saint Thérèse of Lisieux to enlighten him. He asks God to forgive him his sins. He asks Jesus to allow him to be his instrument.

It’s a special day. This afternoon the conclave that is to elect a successor to Pope Benedict XVI is to start. And he is one of the 115 electors who will be locked in the Sistine Chapel to carry out this mission.

It’s cold. From his big room in the Casa Internazionale del Clero Paolo VI, a Vatican guesthouse for priests, on Via della Scrofa, where he usually stays when he is in Rome, he can hear the rain falling on the cobblestones. The people here know him; he has been here several times during the past ten years, and they always book the same room for him, No. 203.

Although he doesn’t like coming to the Vatican—where one risks losing one’s faith with all that intrigue, pomp, and circumstance—he feels at ease in this room, with its high ceilings and period furniture and damask upholstery.

He’s an organized man, careful, methodical—he “doesn’t take a step without thinking about it first,” as the people who know him say—and the night before he had prepared a small suitcase. He won’t take much with him to the Casa Santa Marta, the Vatican guesthouse where he is to lodge with the other cardinals for the duration of the conclave. A conclave that will not last long, he hopes. As in 2005, when he took part in the election to choose John Paul II’s successor, he is convinced that a long election, one lasting more than two days, would give the impression of a divided Church. That is why, at the 2005 conclave, when he happened to be the second most-voted-for Cardinal after Joseph Ratzinger, he took a step back, so as not to impede Ratzinger’s election. After John Paul II’s nearly 27 years as pontiff, it was not easy to replace a giant like him, charismatic until the end. The candidacy of Ratzinger, the former right-hand man of the pope, had been the easiest card to play.

That time, the conclave had been not only a new experience—the first time in Jorge Bergoglio’s life that he had entered the Sistine Chapel to elect the successor of St. Peter—but also a somewhat traumatic one. A conclave is a very secret event, but messages, emotions, and even information always leak out, and the cardinals who had taken part in the 2005 election had seen, during the first vote count, Cardinal Jorge Mario Bergoglio, Archbishop of Buenos Aires, age sixty-eight at the time, nearly distraught as he gradually gained vote after vote. He had even surpassed Cardinal Carlo Maria Martini, like hima Jesuit and very papabile, the candidate of the progressives but no longer a possibility because of illness.

Padre Jorge, as he prefers being called, finishes putting away his things in his room on Via della Scrofa. Eight years have passed since that first conclave, when, thanks be to God, “he had got off,” as he said.

Because of the rain and his suitcase, he won’t be able to walk to the Vatican, as he usually does when in Rome. It’s a walk that relaxes him; as he walks, he prays and admires the beautiful little alleys of the Eternal City, passing through Via dei Coronari with its antique shops. Further on he never fails to stop and pray to the Madonna dell’Archetto in an old passageway that leads to the Via dell’Arco dei Banchi. Here this splendid fresco of the Virgin is painted on the wall, a special image among the thousands to be found in Rome. After praying there, Padre Jorge, like any passerby (he doesn’t like showing off his scarlet cardinal’s robes, which he hides under a black coat) crosses the Vittorio Emanuele II bridge over the Tiber River and presses on toward the Vatican.

He has taken this walk many times, peaceably, alone, because, even though he has thousands of friends, he is essentially a solitary man. Every step thinking and praying, thinking and praying, something he never stops doing.

He goes down to the reception desk. There he greets the people behind the counter with a shy smile. It’s a quarter to seven in the morning. “Good luck, Your Eminence,” they wish him very courteously, escorting him to his taxi with an umbrella. “See you soon,” the Argentine Cardinal salutes them.

His room at the Casa di Santa Marta is 207. It was assigned to him by lot the day before, during the last general congregation of cardinals before the conclave. It is a small, simple room, furnished only with what is strictly necessary—a bed, a chest of drawers, a desk, a crucifix on the wall, a bathroom— the way he likes it. It’s eight o’- clock in the morning. Although strictly speaking the seclusion cum clave (with a key) has not yet begun, isolation has already started. No more phone calls, no more reading of the daily papers, no more contact with the outside world—only with the other 114 cardinals from the five continents, who have the tremendous responsibility of electing the new pope at a truly turbulent time in the history of the Catholic Church.

As laid down by ancient ritual, the cardinals move in procession from the Pauline Chapel to the Sistine Chapel. With their scarlet vestments, in an atmosphere of great solemnity, they advance singing “Veni Creator Spiritus,” the hymn that invokes the help of the Holy Spirit for the crucial election. They take their places behind the long tables under the awesome images of Michelangelo’s Last Judgment. And then, one by one, readinga Latin text, their right hands resting on the Gospels placed on a lectern in the middle of the chapel, they swear to maintain absolute secrecy with respect to everything regarding the election of the pope.

At 34 minutes past five, the master of pontifical liturgical ceremonies, Monsignor Guido Marini, announces in an almost shy voice the extra omnes —“everyone out”—which decrees the departure from the Sistine Chapel of everybody who is not taking part in this most secret election. Under the frescoes the silence is interrupted by the sound of the pens now touching the elegant sheet of paper that every cardinal has in front of him. For the first time, the 115 cardinals write on their sheets of paper the name of the person they believe to be the right one to succeed Benedict XVI. They write on the line beneath the words: Eligo in Summum Pontificem (“I elect as Supreme Pontiff ”).

As the Cardinal scrutineer reads out, one by one, the written names, expectation in the Sistine Chapel is overwhelming. The acoustics are not good, but as he hears his first and last name over and over again, Jorge Mario Bergoglio—serious, his eyes attentive —begins to realize that the intuition he has never taken seriously is being fulfilled. It is true; he is in danger of being elected pope.

7:41 in the evening. From the chimney of the Sistine Chapel— fitful spurts of black smoke. None of the 115 cardinalelectors has obtained the seventyseven required votes, equal to a twothirds majority, to be elected successor to Benedict XVI and the 266th head of the Catholic Church. More than ten names came up in this scattered first round of voting. Bergoglio is second only to the Italian Cardinal Angelo Scola. Bergoglio: 25 to 30 votes. Perceived as one of the great intellectuals of the Catholic Church, Scola is the son of a socialist truck driver, a member of the Com – munion and Liberation movement (a lay Catholic movement founded by an Italian priest, don Luigi Giussani after the Second Vatican Council), and has been friends with Joseph Ratzinger since 1971, when they helped start the high-profile theological journal Communio. He was formerly the rector of the Pontifical Lateran University and in 2004 started the Oasis International Foundation, which seeks to foster understanding between Christians and Muslims. He was the patriarch of Venice for several years before Benedict XVI designated him Archbishop of Milan, the largest diocese in Europe. This was a signal, experts said, that Scola was Benedict’s chosen successor.

I interviewed Scola once, at the spectacular Patriarchal Palace in Venice, next to St. Mark’s Basilica, and he said “Anyone who has inside experience of a conclave, will realize that predictions melt into thin air when you’re actually in the room. It’s true that the pope is chosen by the Holy Spirit. I really think that the Holy Spirit guides the Church and puts human pettiness—I mean the cordate and controcordate [ factions and counterfactions]—to good use. At the end of the day, the Church’s wisdom stretches back two thousand years. So many factors have to come together for a pope to be elected that no one can appreciate them all in advance. That’s where the Holy Spirit steps in and makes the choice.”

Two other firm favorites, the Brazilian Odilo Pedro Scherer and the Canadian Marc Ouellet, also reap votes, but so does the American Cardinal Seán O’Malley. The atmosphere is tense. The cardinals acting as scrutineers are sitting at a table in front of the altar. After the vote, the first thing they do is shuffle the ballots. They go on to count them, to check if there are as many votes as cardinals present. Then the first scrutineer draws a ballot, unfolds it, looks at the name written on it, and passes it to the second scrutineer. That Cardinal verifies the name and passes it to the third, who reads it aloud so that the cardinal-electors can note down the results themselves.

When all the ballots have been counted, the scrutineers add up the votes for each candidate and make note of them on a separate piece of paper. As the last of the scrutineers reads each ballot, he makes a small hole in each by punching through the word Eligo witha needle and threads them together to keep them safe. When all the names have been read out, the two ends of the thread are tied together, and the ballots, thus joined, are placed in an empty container on one side of the table. This is followed by the third and final stage, also known as post-scrutiny, which includes recounting the votes, checking them, and burning the ballots. The scrutineers tally the votes for each candidate, and if no candidate has reached a twothirds majority, there is no new pope. After being checked, all the ballots are burned by the scrutineers. Two furnaces are used: one for the fire and the other for the chemicals that are used to color the smoke black or white, depending on the result. Some of the smoke during the 2005 conclave was a confusing grayish color, but this time they use an electronic cartridge containing five nontoxic chemicals, harmless to both Michelangelo’s frescoes and the cardinals themselves, while leaving no doubt as to the outcome.

That first count is the only one held that afternoon. Once the first vote is over, the 115 cardinals say vespers.

On Wednesday, March 13, the cardinals celebrate Mass in the Pauline Chapel. Half an hour later the second vote begins. The cardinals write the names of their chosen candidates on their ballots before getting up from their tables in the order assigned to them in the College of Cardinals. Catching one another’s eyes, ballots in hand, they make their way toward a ballot box standing opposite the altar, beneath the Last Judgment. The suspense is enormous.

After two counts, at 11:39 a.m., black smoke billows from the chimney for the second time. No one has reached the magic number of 77 votes. Bergoglio, however, has taken the lead. In both the second and third ballots of voting that morning, he has received more votes than any of the other papabili—more than fifty in the third ballot. It’s clear that Scola is no longer a likely candidate. Nor are the chances picking up for the Canadian Ouellet, the American O’Malley, or the Brazilian Scherer, whom Vatican insiders indicated was the favorite of the anti-reform block.

The fourth round of voting begins at 4:50 p.m. Bergoglio remembers a friend reminding him of John Paul II’s Universi Dominici Gregis, which addresses the vacancy of the Apostolic See and the election of a new Roman pontiff: “I also ask the one who is elected not to refuse, for fear of its weight, the office to which he has been called, but to submit humbly to the design of the divine will. God who imposes the burden will sustain him with his hand, so that he will be able to bear it. In conferring the heavy task upon him, God will also help him to accomplish it and, in giving him the dignity, he will grant him the strength not to be overwhelmed by the weight of his office.”

The first man to embrace Padre Jorge when his vote count goes over 77 is the friend sitting next to him, Brazilian Cardinal Cláudio Hummes, who whispers Don’t forget the poor.

As required by ritual, Cardinal Giovanni Battista Re asks him: “Do you accept your canonical election as Supreme Pontiff?”

“I am a great sinner, but trusting in themercy and patience ofGod, with suffering, I accept,” Padre Jorge replies. “What name do you take?”

“Francis.”

The acoustics in the Sistine Chapel are not very good. Some cardinals have not heard the name. “Did he say Francis?” others ask. The faces of many of the cardinals reveal more than many words would. No one had ever dared to pick a name like that, a name containing a firm, clear, and direct message, a plan of government even.

Although some think the name is a homage to Francis Xavier, a Jesuit missionary who traveled to Asia, those who really know Bergoglio—the priest who always visited Argentina’s slums, who has always been on the side of the poor, and who renounced all luxuries—realize that he is thinking of Francis of Assisi, known as Il Poverello, the poor friar who dared to criticize the luxuries of the Roman Church during the Middle Ages.

Accompanied by the master of ceremonies, Bergoglio shuts himself away in the “Room of Tears” (stanza delle lacrime), the small sacristy of the Sistine Chapel. The famous papal tailor, Gammarelli, has made three full-length habits in different sizes. Bergoglio chooses the medium one. When he emerges dressed as pope, all in white, the cardinals are once again astonished because he’s wearing his usual cross and silver ring and has turned down the gold papal pectoral cross. Nor does he put on the red mozzetta that his predecessors have used to greet the world for the first time. “No, thank you,” Bergoglio says to the assistant who is helping him dress. Nor does he let them take off his black shoes.

The first thing the new pope does is go straight to talk to a Cardinal who is in very bad health, confined to a wheelchair, and who has taken part in the conclave with some difficulty: Ivan Dias, Archbishop Emeritus of Bombay/Mumbai. The cardinals then file by, one by one, to offer Francis their obedience. When the cardinals fromVietnamand China, seventy-nine- year-old Jean-Baptiste Pham Minh Man and seventy-twoyear- old John Tong Hon, try to kiss his ring, he stops them, and he, Francis, kisses their hands. Tong presents him a gift: a small bronze statue of Our Lady of Sheshan, whose shrine is on the outskirts of Shanghai.

Then the cardinals sing the “Te Deum,” a hymn of thanks. Francis steps alone into the Pauline Chapel to pray.

It is 8:12 p.m. The Cardinal in charge of protocol, the Frenchman Jean-Louis Tauran, appears on the balcony. He reads a Latin phrase that will go down in history for the faithful the world over, and particularly for Argentines: Annuntio vobis gaudium magnum; habemus papam: eminentissimum ac reverendissimum Dominum, Dominum Georgium Marium Sanctae Romanae Ecclesiae Cardinalem Bergoglio qui sibi nomen imposuit Franciscum.

Ten minutes later, Padre Jorge, dressed in white, comes out onto the balcony. He looks astonished. “Brothers and sisters,” he says, in Italian, “buona sera. You know that the duty of the conclave was to provide Rome with a Bishop. It seems my brother cardinals went to the end of the world to fetch him! But here we are!”

He pays eloquent homage to his predecessor, and then he leads the crowd in praying the Our Father and the Hail Mary, and then he talks for a moment about how “…we set off on this journey together, a journey of brotherhood, love, and trust…” And then, before he offers his first blessing to the world as pope, he does a beautifully Bergoglio thing, a classic Padre Jorge thing, an astonishing thing, a humble thing: he bows his head and asks the crowd to pray for him.

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No More!

April 13, 2015 By Parker

We asked the University’s health center director to pour out his heart about why America is a rape culture. He did so with an articulate rage that will make you weep.

A hall director answers the latenight knock at her door. A young woman is standing there barefoot, wearing sweatpants and a hoody. She is staring at the floor. The hall director senses trouble and steps out and gently scoops this holy child out of the hallway and into the room. The girl slowly tells her director that she has been raped. She was at a party the night before, and she doesn’t remember anything after a certain point, but this morning she noticed and felt certain things, and found evidence on her body, and she has spent the whole day weeping and vomiting and falling asleep exhausted and waking up only to cry again.

Help me, she says to the hall director. Help me.

She says she is furious at the young man who tricked and drugged and raped her, and she is furious at herself for trusting him, and she feels guilty and ashamed, and she’s confused and exhausted and so, so sad—not just for herself but for her poor parents, my poor parents! She feels violated and exploited and stupid and a failure and she cries and cries and cries.

Help me.

And the hall director helps her. She listens and believes. She gently walks the young woman through her options for medical evaluation, safety, protection, and if she wants, the pursuit of justice.

Most rapes are inflicted on children under the age of 18. The second-most rapes are inflicted upon girls and young women from ages 18 to 26. The source for these numbers? The United States Federal Bureau of Investigation.

In The Beacon student newspaper’s third issue of the 2014-2015 academic year, a brave student named Malika Andrews, wrote an essay about being raped at the age of twelve. “One in six,” began her essay. “One in six. That’s the number of women who will be raped. One in six. I was twelve years old when I became that one. Was it my fault? Absolutely not, but that did not stop me from stewing in selfhatred. I fell into silence for years. Years. Here at the University the administration does a good job of rape awareness and prevention, but where is the student voice? Rape occurs everywhere. Rape occurs here. Who are we to be ignorant of an epidemic that plagues the nation and the world? Who are we not to stand up and take responsibility for the safety of the students on the campus we call home? Did you think rape doesn’t happen here? That’s a lie. Rape is real and rape is everywhere. Silence is the enemy. Silence allows horrific acts to continue. Silence is what causes survivors to feel alone. I am here to tell you, my friend, that you are not alone. Speak up!”

Most of us simply cannot comprehend that there are boys and men among us who become angry enough, insecure enough, detached enough, entitled enough, that they convert holy human life into a target to be dominated, and wounded, and humiliated in the most powerfully intimate manner: rape. Rape is murder of humanity; rape is power and control; rape refuses to admit that a girl, a woman, a boy, or another man is a human being, an aspect of God, breathed into life by that which we call God. Rape is dehumanization. Another tool of dehumanization is a word that reduces a person to a thing, an idea, a non-entity. Think about that when you hear someone say that someone else is a monster, a slut, a tramp, a whore, a loser, a dolt, a pig. The Nazis knew this well; it’s much easier to rape and murder people if you can convince yourself they are not people at all.

In the course of my career as a psychologist I have worked in counseling and health centers at two Catholic universities. I have also worked in jails, community mental health centers, psychiatric hospitals, and private practices. Across all those settings I have worked with sex offenders, child and adult survivors of sexual assault or abuse, parents who have lost their children due to selling their children for sex in exchange for drugs, single mothers whose boyfriends have used the children for prostitution and rape. I have provided mental health counseling for strippers, pimps, and prostitutes. I have worked with the Title IX system for the University of Portland. I have supervised multiple revisions of our sexual assault advocate networks on The Bluff. I have heard stories that would give you nightmares for the rest of your life; some of them have done so to me. It’s a hazard of my vocation. When truly present with someone in his or her painful, scorching story, you get burned, too, a little.

You can just begin to imagine the awful dreams of millions of people who have survived rapes and molestations. You can just begin to imagine their nightmares. Imagine living the rest of your life afraid to sleep, for fear of the horrors that await you there.

I had given a presentation about rates of sexual violence at the University to a group of student affairs professionals. At lunch a fellow administrator asked me what I had been doing that morning. I said that I had been talking about sexual assaults among our students. The man who had asked me the question leaned toward me in clear distress and said “We don’t have sexual violence in our community, do we?” I had to lean toward him and say sadly, “Yes, yes we do, far more often than anyone wishes to talk about or realize.” It seemed to me that he was angry with me, the messenger; or maybe he was outraged that those in our care have been subject to harm. I should have asked him, but I didn’t.

I met a woman once who told me she was attacked at a student party in the 1950s. She was twenty years old then. She started therapy finally decades later, after her husband, standing behind her, surprised her with a hug, and she grabbed a knife and brandished it at him. Slowly it came out that she had lived with fear and darkness for decades not only because of the rape, but because she had never reported it to the police, and was racked with guilt that her rapist probably attacked many more women. She could not forgive herself for not protecting those women. She died unable to forgive herself for that.

It is commonly thought that a rape involves a random stranger, an attack in a dark alley, a shrouded jogging path, a bad part of town, rather than a noisy house party or a quiet dorm room. If you stay away from strangers, you are safe. If you always have a jogging buddy, you are safe. If you are male, you are safe.

But those rapes are a fraction of total rapes. Most rapes are perpetrated by known and trusted family members, boyfriends, in-laws, neighbors, and acquaintances. And they also are sometimes perpetrated by women against women, and women against boys, and women against men. Less common but true, and the key variable is the power difference between two human beings.

A student brags to his buddies that he makes his girlfriend do what he wants. His friends snicker. But a guy from Corrado Hall says, “Hey, man, if you say anything like that again, I am going to tell your girlfriend, and if I see anything like that, I am going to tell everyone there is. You hear me?” Silence.

A little thing, isn’t it? A little moment, a stray moment. One remark and then another, so easily forgotten. But that student told me, and I tell you, and the more people who stand up suddenly like the young man from Corrado, who knows?

We are truly, I say to you, steeped in a rape culture. Our culture overtly depicts and celebrates the act of forcing sexual will upon another person. Our culture is blasé about prostitution. Mothers complain about the difficulty in finding clothes for their little girls that are not sexually suggestive. Our culture buys and sells and casually discusses music lyrics that celebrate rape, and advertising that objectifies women. Our culture is twisted up with pornography, the largest money tree on the Internet. Our culture adores macho men who take what they want, be it land or money or sex. Our culture adores power and domination. It appears our culture cannot be bothered to be honest about rape, or prosecute it without exposing the victim to abuse, or even admit that one in four women will face rape, and one in six college girls, and one in ten boys. Our culture doesn’t stare at the previous sentence and weep in shame.

Our culture is also confused because young people hear that they should be free to “hook up” with people they don’t know, and feel free, or even be expected, to drink alcohol to the point of poisoning. When I was assisting with psychological evaluations of inmates in jail I learned that many referred to colleges as ‘candy stores’ for exactly this combination of expectations and alcohol. They thought of drunk girls and young women stumbling along the streets of college towns as easy pickings.

In recent years, girls and women, on average, drink alcohol more heavily than they did in the past. Women suffer much more physiological and cognitive incapacitation with alcohol than do men. (It’s a biological thing). This creates more vulnerable targets for predators. This is not victim- blaming; this is me telling you coldly that many times women in a sufficient drunken state are legally unable to give consent to any action, and unable to defend themselves. Sexual intercourse without consent is defined by most laws as rape. So drunken sexual intercourse becomes, arguably, rape. Even if there is no evidence of coercion or manipulation or force or threat, it is rape by virtue of sex with an incapacitated person. But what if the partner was impaired also, and cannot accurately judge the level of impairment?

So colleges are left to sort out, in investigations, timelines for how many drinks, and who offered them to whom, and how was sex discussed, if at all, and whether they even knew each other’s names, and what was done to whom, in what order, initiated by whom. If you think this sort of thing is rare you are mistaken. And no matter what the conclusion of the investigation, the damage to self- images, to friend networks, to memories of the college years, is permanently already done.

 

We fight rape here at the University as hard and thoroughly and energetically and creatively as we possibly can. I believe that with all my heart. We do everything we can think of to make people aware, to be tender and sensitive to victims, to bring justice against criminals, to foment awareness and the courage to intervene. But there’s that cute guy she just met, who seems so sweet, and there are those guys who are just so friendly, and there are parties, Halloween parties, spring break parties, end-of-year parties, proms, taverns, bars at home and abroad, weekend camping trips, parties everywhere and anywhere. And almost always present, before and during a rape: alcohol.

I can give you numbers but I won’t. I don’t want a single soul to be tempted to say that we are not as bad as elsewhere. I will tell you that our number is not zero, which means there are far far far too many rapes here. One is too many. The only acceptable number is zero. I get furious about this. Many people here get furious about this. Male and female, staff and faculty, students and regents, alumni and friends. One is too many. One is a girl, a child, a boy, a child. Want me to make it real, right here in this sentence? A while ago a dad came to campus to pack up his daughter’s dorm room because she was raped and can’t stand to be on our campus. His little daughter, the kid he has loved with his whole heart and soul all her life. His baby girl. Your baby girl. Mine. Ours.

On dark days, I remember that hundreds of people here have stepped forward in hundreds of ways to try to prevent rape. Hundreds. Hundreds of people are trying to create an environment here that does not allow perpetrators to hide, or deflect, or plot, or isolate their targets. Hundreds of people keeping our eyes and ears open, and recruiting more eyes and ears, and trying to bend the public conversation toward honesty about rape and power and greed and cynicism and money and lies and justice and mercy.

Four years ago we started our Green Dot program here at the University. We joined a lot of other campuses who have Green Dot programs. Green Dot is essentially a ferocious effort to get everyone on campus to pay attention to the possibilities of rape and to stand up and stop it. The principle comes from crime maps, where red dots mark bad events. On our maps green dots mark spots on campus where bad events are prevented. To cover the campus with green dots we train students and faculty and staff to be aware, to recognize, and to disrupt possible scenarios for rape, possible rapes, jokes about rape, slurs about rape, everything about rape. In the years since we have installed the program, our campus map is covered with green dots, which is good; but it’s not awash with green dots, yet.

This sounds like officious nonsense but it isn’t. Here’s a Green Dot story. Before a male student went to a party, he donned a Green Dot wristband to remind himself to be alert to anyone who might become vulnerable, become a target for a predator. Later that evening he’s having a great time but also casually keeping track of who is the most vulnerable partygoer due to drink. Late in the evening he notices a man at the party who seems quite sober and focused. This man doesn’t seem to know anyone at the party but he scans the attendees and soon befriends the most inebriated young woman; indeed he seems to be leading her out of the party. Our student with the wristband slides over and makes an excuse and separates the girl from the stranger and escorts her to female friends who take her home and put her to bed. Our male student didn’t figure someone else would take care of it. He didn’t sneer at the girl for getting drunk. He took care of what he saw might be a serious problem. No confrontation, no fanfare, no reward. Did his actions prevent a rape? Perhaps, perhaps not. Did he reduce the possibility with a quiet, brave act? Yes, he did. That’s Green Dot.

I set out to write about rape at the University of Portland and I found myself writing about a country of rape, a culture of rape, distortions and delusions everywhere. But every time I came close to despair over its insidious prevalence I remembered how many people I know who are not in denial, who hate this crime, who are fighting it with all their might. It is a crime of violence and leering power and control and if we root it out, when we root it out, we will be a better university and better country and a better people.

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I know so many men and women who are so graceful and brave and vivacious and tenacious in their public lives, and you would never imagine that they had been drugged, or bribed, or tricked, or overpowered, or beaten, and then raped, sometimes for years. So many. Whenever I hear the word grace I think of them first. How can people survive such horrors? Yet some do, with what we can only call amazing grace.

But so many do not, and they fall into drugs and alcohol and crime and disease and early death, and it was not their fault, it was never their fault, their lives were stolen from them by rapists.

My son works with the homeless in downtown Portland. He gives them a shot at housing and job-training and medication. So many of the folks he serves every day are souls blasted apart by rape. At Saint Andre Bessette Parish downtown, near where my son works, where so very many University students and alumni and Holy Cross priests and brothers have served the poor and homeless, the pastor told me once that 75% of the men and 100% of the women who came there for meals and respite had been sexually assaulted.Every single woman who walked through the lunchroom door.

When I worked at the Delaunay Mental Health Center, named for the legendary University professor Father John Delaunay, C.S.C., we found that 70% of our clients had been raped or assaulted, or seen rape and assault as children.

What stays in my mind is the realization that those atrocities created diagnoses that could be traced to their terrible struggles to cope: depression, anxiety, stress disorders, compulsive behaviors, dissociative disorders. These afflictions were not natural, not genetic, not accidents: they were the result of inhumanity perpetrated by one being against a helpless other.

Each being is sacred! Each being is God’s own child! We have a duty to protect and support and care for God’s children! We say we will do this in so many ways, in so many venues, in so many aspects of our lives, but as a community we do not do it as thoroughly and furiously as we could. We don’t. Can we?

It is the great Oregon visionary Barry Lopez, to whom the University of Portland gave an honorary doctorate celebrating his reverence and work for others, who has said repeatedly that ours is a rape culture, and we should weep for shame. He’s right. Rape is woven into video games and pop music, in movies and in advertising. She really wanted it. Her no really meant yes. She enjoyed it. He needs to just take what he wants because he’s a man’s man. Boys will be boys, no one made her drink, she led him on…Lies! Lies! Lies! Stare at the horrifying numbers with me again—most rapes are committed against children and girls. Children and girls! I weep for shame.

Even as I wrote this piece I remembered so many stories from friends, classmates, neighbors, and parishioners about boys molested on Scout campouts, and by priests from my own parish as a boy, and by a local high school teacher, and by a grade school teacher, and by babysitters on their young charges, and on and on. What I also recall is we kids knew about this in some odd way, and we did nothing. I did nothing. I was ignorant and powerless then, and later I thought I should not speak because it was not my life to speak of. But it is part of my life. I knew them and knew the story and I said nothing. How many of you have been in the same quandary?

As a psychologist I have conducted psychological evaluations of sex offenders, and evaluated child, adolescent, and adult survivors of rape and inexplicable forms of sexual, emotional, and physical abuse and assault. I have read police reports and listened to first-hand accounts that still give me nightmares. So many of the sex offenders I interviewed or tested blamed the child, or blamed the teenager for being seductive, or claimed that the victimcontrolled the act—if they admitted that anything happened at all. Their version of the events was a complete reversal from what the documented facts were for each situation. A four-year-old seductress? Your son or daughter wanted to be sold for sex? I saw such rigid denial that they would not even engage or entertain the evidence.

But there was always, always, rational and calculating planning and anticipation and manipu-lation, which would then be split off and dissociated in an act of self-protection when the perpetrator was actually witnessed or reported. The lesson I never forgot: we need to create a community in which threats that no one will believe you have no power because we will believe. Can we do that?

There are a number of reasons to admire the University’s soccer teams, but here’s one: both the men’s and the women’s teams have made videos promoting Green Dot, and many players in the past have trained to be campus Green Dot leaders, and this year all the players on both teams trained to be Green Dot leaders. Now that is a reason to be a Pilot soccer fan.

Want to never get raped? Want to be sure your children never get raped? Tell yourself this, tell them this: Don’t trust anyone, particularly those held in high esteem by those you trust. Don’t be alone with anyone. Don’t ever be intoxicated. Be as unapproachable as you can. Don’t be a child. Don’t be nice or shy or appear vulnerable. And don’t expect justice or fairness. This is the world we live in. Is this the world we want to live in?

I was on a morning walk the other day and I noticed my aged neighbor carried a rape whistle when she walks in our gorgeous Portland neighborhood. My own mother kept a can of mace on her key chain. Growing up I took it for granted that my mom kept a can of mace in her purse in case of a rapist in a parking lot. That’s just what people did and do, I figured. How sad is that? How sad is that?

I once had a client in my private practice who spoke to me for months before she disclosed that her father sold her as a sex slave for several years, beginning when she was twelve years old. When I spoke to her she was sixty years old and had spent her life alone and in terrible darkness. But she was a woman of remarkable spirit, and she was finally clean and sober, and she finally began to date, for the first time in her whole life, in the last year before she died. There’s always hope.

I think of all the people who have worked so hard, so passionately, and so ferociously against rape on our campus. A philosophy professor. A chef. A shy priest. A soccer coach. A sociology professor. Two mathematics professors. An athletics advisor. An attorney. A campus policeman. A poetry professor. A former Army colonel. A campus ministry staffer. All over the map. Every corner of the campus. Residence hall staff. Student affairs staff. The brave student who wrote about her own rape in the pages of The Beacon. So many more. So very many people. Not just the official people, the ones who are assigned the task, but everyone, from all over. That makes me happy.

In the Constitutions of the Congregation of Holy Cross, the Catholic order of priests and brothers who have been part of the University since the morning it opened, they proclaim: “The mission is not simple, for the impoverishments we would relieve are not simple. There are networks of privilege, prejudice, and power so commonplace that often neither oppressor nor victims are aware of them. We must be aware and also understanding by reason of fellowship with the impoverished and by reason of patient learning. For the kingdom to come in this world, disciples must have the competence to see and the courage to act.” Amen to that.

What form of relationship would have a chance to be so transformative that sexual assault is not an option for the broken and angry among us? What sort of relationship would steal the distorted motives and worldviews of rapists, so that no one could fail to recognize another being’s sacredness? Isn’t love the only answer here? A loving relationship that is honest and direct, that sees the whole person, not a caricature; evil has no chance when faced with a whole person. What an extraordinary charge, to bring that love to bear…and isn’t that what the University of Portland is about, down deep? Bringing love to bear?

I don’t have a great ending for this essay. I don’t have any rage and tears left in me here at the end. I am begging you to help save our children. I am begging you. Help save our girls and young women and boys, and yes our men. Help save every fourth female you meet and every seventh male. Help me. Please, help me. Let us join together and increase our ability to see; and let us pray for courage to act.

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PITTER & DRENCH

March 31, 2015 By Parker

Question from prospective student’s mother, asked of me as we stand by the chapel on the most beautiful crisp sunlit October day you ever saw in your life: Does it rain here?

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Does it rain here? Is the pope Jesuit? Is the ocean salty? Do swallows return in the spring? Are there still trees bigger than your house in the remote ravines of the dense moist forests of Cascadia? How do you think those trees got to be so epic? Did you know that those huge trees can drink water right out of the air? Do you think that a tree could get its water from the air without there being a lot of water in the air?
Does it rain here? Come back on All Souls Day, when the Rains begin with an indescribable gentle firm authority, so that you know, even before you are fully awake, that this is the Day, this is the beginning of the Wet, for the rain is thorough and relentless and inarguable, and this is not a shower, or a scatter, or a passing cloudburst, or a storm, but the opening bars of a very long song, the first chapter of a book that will take the next three seasons to read, the first minutes of a very long game, during which you will huddle under an umbrella, and thrash in the closet for your raincoat, and rub mink oil into your shoes yet again, and put that ratty old towel on the porch, so that when the dog wants to come in, some poor child has to kneel and wipe his muddy paws so he does not trot runes upon the floor I just this minute finished sweeping.

Does it rain here? Look about you, woman. Gaze long and lovingly on the lushness of the grass, and the vault of the trees, and the tangled insistence of the bushes, and the startling prevalence of moss, and the little swale near the chapel that is always moist so matter how hot and dry the weather, and tell me if you think that perhaps yes, a drop doth fall here and there, and then another, and then a thousand and million and uncountable zillions from November right through June, so that summer here is accounted from July through October, after which the Rains begin, and neither they do not cease, day after day after day of mist and rain and fog and drizzle and pitter and drench! Gaze about you piercingly at the endless ranks and shades of green across the river, and tell me if you think the long thicketed flank of the Tualatin Mountains is perhaps the product of uncountable years of the steadiest rain you could ever imagine! Gaze down upon the broad muscle of the river, and consider whence came all that water, which does not cease though the sun be bright, and almost doubles its serpentine girth in spring, when months of rain and weeks of snowmelt send a rush and roar of immense proportions to the sea, the Water from which all things came, including, in a sense, us!

Does it rain here? Madame, it does. But rather than groan and moan about it, let us consider it an extraordinary gift from the One: falling free and fresh from the sky every blessed day here on the bluff is clean water, untouched and untrammeled by the greedy hand of man; and so let us step inside the chapel, and thank that which once called itself I Am Who Am, Who giveth us profligately the sweet and savory rain; and so amen.

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